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Day 13: Being a Single Mom is Hard

I am currently typing this with one hand while trying to soothe a fussy 4 month old while a 5-year-old runs up and down the stairs. Just writing that sentence took five minutes. Every time I need to write or make a phone call or simply go to the store it’s a process. Raising two kids alone is one of the hardest things in the world, but few recognize that fact.

As women, we’re told that raising kids is something we’re supposed to do. It’s supposed to be easy and come naturally to us. It’s not always that way. As a matter of fact, I think it’s rarely that way. Raising kids takes work. It’s a full-time job, sometimes on top of another full-time outside of the home job.

There are many ways you can end up in a situation like mine. Some through choice, some through death of a partner, some through some other unfortunate circumstance. I fall into the latter category. I didn’t want to be in this situation. I did everything “right” and still ended up a single mom, like my mother before me.

I don’t think being a single mom is a bad thing; my mom rocked the hell out of it. I just think it’s super hard. Harder than most realize. Single moms rarely get recognition but are always subjected to ridicule and stereotypes. I hate that. Single moms are out here doing a job most are unwilling or unable to do. They should be celebrated for raising their kids, surviving, and thriving in a society that thinks so little of them. The next time you come across a single mommy, show her a little love. I know she’d appreciate it.



I'm a simple single mom living a complicated life.

One thought on “Day 13: Being a Single Mom is Hard

  1. finding love and joy from your children comes easy and nature for a mother, raising them doesn’t. More so for single mother of two. My mother was also a single mother of two and worked so much my sister and I were lucky to see her before we went to sleep each night. To see her 5 hours in a week was a blessing and my younger sister normally got most of that attention.

    When she was around to see us my sister and I would fight and beg for her attention. Which probably was more stressful on her then the her endless working, She just wanted to love us and hear about our days but our selfishness for her attention normally brought her to tears from being over worked and seeing her kids use the little time available fighting with each other.

    I don’t know how she did it. But she did.

    Hopefully in time your stress will become less and find it easier to manage the two joys in your life with more ease.

    But in honesty I doubt it gets easier. The instinct for it may be clearer to feel and your time easier to manage after doing it more and longer. You still will find trials ahead that will test but the love you find from your children should be more then enough to make it past.

    I found your link from your twitter. Saw your post on women that got egged. I don’t know who I’m voting for yet. Prob trump or Bernie if he makes it. Not Hillary though. But you posting that is the same has the women taunting and saying is fine to lay hands then. If you take an eye for an eye you leave the world blind. And with enemies.

    I’m just tired of seeing back and fourth from everyone on Twitter over the election. This post of your hard time being a single mother touched me. However, one found on Twitter got at me little. But reading this blog post reminded me we all have lives with meaning and it’s too short to start fights that will not be won casting stones.

    Maybe we could both start being positive or without calling for it even when we see a disagreement with our own? Start new trend on Twitter. I just see to much loss of respect for others now it hurts, but also makes me forget it and do the same. I don’t like it for myself. Hopefully you could join me too since you reminded me!


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