Someone said this to me a while back and it still bugs the mess out of me. I don’t “qualify” as fat? That makes no sense. Was there a test I didn’t take? A certification needed? Did I not show up the day the fat certificates were being handed out? I don’t get it.
I know it was most likely meant as a compliment, but I didn’t think it was. It stinks of the “you’re not fat, you’re beautiful” backhanded ass compliment. It’s like saying fat people can’t possibly be beautiful and that’s just some bullshit. I mean, look at me.
I’m 5′ 3.25″ (the quarter of an inch is very important, thank you very much) and over 200 pounds. I most definitely fall in the fat category. By medical standards (and to most regular people) I fit squarely into the obese column. That does not take away from the fact that I am cute as fuck. I may not always feel cute (we all have days where we don’t feel cute), but my selfies remind me that I am.
My fatness is just another part of who I am. I’m Black, I’m bisexual, I’m mentally ill, and I’m fat. It’s just another description to me. It’s not an insult and not something to be ashamed of no matter how hard society tries to make me feel that way. It’s a simple description. Nothing more, nothing less. The next time you want to compliment a fat person, give them an honest compliment. Don’t pull the “you’re not fat, you’re beautiful” bullshit.