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Day 195: Drake ruined the term BBW.

It was barely hanging on by a thread before he declared he liked his girls BBW, but I’ll be damned if it hasn’t nose-dived since. Now every man (especially Black men) and some women seem to think that BBW means flat stomach, small waist, big ass, and big breasts. Oh, but it can’t be too big because then you’re just “regular fat”.

Most of the girls these dudes think are “BBW” aren’t even that big. They probably don’t even have to shop in the plus size section or in plus size stores. How many of these “I love BBWs” men would date a woman with a large stomach, small breasts, and/or a small butt?

So many men cannot handle the fat that they’re attracted to fat, non-hourglass shaped women. Their brains short-circuit and they act even more ridiculous than they already do. I’m sure just about every fat woman has encountered the “I’ll fuck you in private but won’t acknowledge you in public” dude.These are the dudes talking major shit about fat women in public, but are all over BBW porn sites and all up in fat women’s DMs looking for sex.

Then there’s the “you should be grateful I’m talking to you” men. They assume since you’re fat you’re obviously lonely and starved for attention. They think that they’re doing you a favor by catcalling you and/or asking you for your number. Oh, if only they knew…

Then, probably worst of all, are the “I love you for who you are, but as soon as we get together I’m gonna try to change you” dudes. Fuck those guys. They’re the ones who swear up and down they love every bit of you just the way you are, but you’d be even better if you changed just this one tiny little thing. Once you do that another tiny little thing needs to change and then you’ll be absolutely perfect. They keep moving the goalposts farther and farther away. The next thing you know you’re either killing yourself trying to be the skinny girl they want or (if you’re lucky) you recognize the bullshit for what it is.

Fat women have always gone through hell in the dating game, but Drake and his “I like my girls BBW” line only made it that much more acceptable for people to shit on us.

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