There’s something most people don’t understand about “manipulative behavior” and borderline personality disorder. A lot of people associate it with very gross, abusive stuff. That’s true for some people because everyone is different and some people are abusive ass-monkeys, BPD or no BPD. For many of us though, that’s not the case.
I know for me personally, I’m likely to fish for compliments, need to hear “I love you” or “I like you” from friends/partners, agree to do shit I really don’t wanna do because I honestly believe they’ll walk out on me if I say no, etc. The stuff I’m likely to do will either slightly annoy people or benefit others in some way while I’m left still emotionally void. So no, I’m not some evil genius plotting to take over the world and destroy humanity through cunning and grace (although with the way this year is going, that sounds very tempting). I’m mostly just trying desperately to hang on to the people I love and avoid rejection.