#BlackBiBeauty was everything I wanted it to be and more. I’m amazed at the amount of people who participated on tumblr, Facebook (yes, I saw y’all), and on twitter. I also want to send out a big thank you to applewriter on twitter for helping make this happen. I was nervous about it at first, but I’m glad I did it. The outcome was definitely worth it.
The sense of community was what I was going for and I think we got it. I heard from so many people how they were finally able to participate in a hashtag and how they felt represented for the first time. A very good discussion was had about how Black bisexual men are vilified in our community.
Another good discussion that happened revolved around how Black bisexual people don’t feel safe or welcome in many queer spaces because of racism from white LGBTQ+ people and biphobia. We get told that if we’re with someone of a different gender (e.g., a man dating a woman or a woman dating a man), we’re no longer welcome because our relationship is “straight”. When we’re with someone of the same gender, we have our sexuality erased because our relationship is seen as “gay”.
These things are true for most bisexual people regardless of race, but on top of the usual biphobia we must deal with flat out racism from the queer community. The assumption that we’re straight and homophobic because people equate Blackness to religion and homophobia. The turning us into personal sex toys because they’ve “never had a Black guy/girl before” and they want to “try us out”.
#BlackBiBeauty was a space where we could talk about these things and air our grievances to the queer community as a whole. It was a space where we could find people who looked like us and bond with them and make new connections. Quite simply, #BlackBiBeauty was a place for us to just be. It was a beautiful thing to watch and I’m contemplating doing it again. We need this space, this community, and I don’t want to see it fade away.