It’s come to my attention that men (and some women) don’t fully understand the power dynamics at play behind the phrase “men are trash.” That’s rather unfortunate, but not totally surprising. Here is my feeble attempt at educating those who truly don’t understand.
Since you people won’t quit, I won’t either.
It turns out there’s way more than just ten things that us bi folks really don’t like hearing. So, let’s go through another list of what not to say. Ever.
“So, which side is better?”
Oh this one’s easy. The non-biphobic side. You know, the one you’re not on.
“You’re not capable of monogamy.”
Is this your fancy way of saying (again) that we’re cheaters? Ugh. You do know straight people cheat too, right? That’s not exclusive to bi people. Also, non-monogamous relationships (that aren’t cheating) are a thing. Not being capable of monogamy isn’t something to be shameful of (unless you’re a cheater and in that case, fuck you).
I went through a lot in my last marriage and as a result I learned a lot. Most of all, I learned that marriage is not the end all, be all of relationships. If you treat it that way, once you get married you are (for lack of a better word) fucked. You treated marriage as “The End, Happily Ever After” and now you realize life still goes on. You’ve signed a binding legal contract tying you to this person for the foreseeable future and you don’t know what to do. All the shit y’all dealt with before marriage, you still have to deal with now. Only difference is you can’t simply tell him to pack his shit and leave and be done with him for good.
So, I saw yet another article floating around claiming that if women don’t want to be raped, they should stop drinking alcohol. The author claims up an down that’s totally not what she’s saying, but the text says differently. I have decided to take it upon myself to rewrite the article from a different point of view. I’ll be telling men that if they don’t want to rape someone, they should stop drinking alcohol. Trigger warning for rape in the following piece.