So the Democratic campaign chairman recently came out and said that Democrats would be willing to fund candidates who oppose abortion rights. They are courting so-called “pro-life” Democrats. Isn’t that the exact opposite of what they’re supposed to be doing? Like, are they trying to lose most of their base?
That’s what it feels like, because what the base is hearing, basically, is they’re willing to fund candidates who oppose access to healthcare. Abortion is healthcare, it’s reproductive healthcare, so you want people who oppose a vital form of healthcare. That makes absolutely no sense. Like, I’m no political scientist, but this seems like a very not-smart move.
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Just because you have a uterus and ovaries, that doesn’t mean you must have children.
Why is it so hard to understand that some people don’t want children?
Why is it so hard to understand that people can and will have sex and enjoy it?
Why is it so hard to understand that birth control can fail?
Why is it so hard to understand that abortion can save a life?
Why is it so hard to understand that adoption isn’t the right choice for everyone?
There are some people who would rather kill themselves than be pregnant. There are some people who are so desperate for an abortion, they’ll do it themselves and risk death. There are some rape and incest victims who don’t want to have their abusers child. There are some people who simply cannot afford the medical bills of pregnancy and the costs of childcare. There are some people who want to have children later in life. There are some people who don’t want anymore children. There are some people who don’t want children at all.
There are some people who, in order to keep their baby from living a short and agonizingly painful life, would rather let them die in peace. Yes, I did say baby in that last sentence. Those abortions are, for the most part, had by people who know their child would not live. They want their baby. They probably planned that pregnancy. They’ve probably picked out a name, started decorating the nursery, and bought clothes, strollers and car seats. Their world came crashing down when they got that fatal diagnosis. They had to make a heart wrenching decision. Taking that choice away from them is a horrible thing to do.
Even if a person gets an abortion “just because” or they have more than the “acceptable” number of abortions (whatever that number may be), that’s their choice. It’s their body and they get to decide what they want to do with it. You or the government don’t get to make that decision for them.
If you don’t want to get an abortion, that’s fine. Don’t get one. Trying to force your personal beliefs onto someone else is just wrong. Let people make their own decisions. When you give people medically correct information and leave them alone, they will always do what’s right for them.
One thing that really bothers me about the “I support abortion only if the pregnant person’s life is in danger” people is they usually only think in terms of physical health and not mental health. In addition to being physically stressful, pregnancy can and does take a major toll on a person’s mental health. I know for a fact it did to me. I’m still dealing with the consequences of going through an unplanned but wanted pregnancy. I can’t even imagine the state my mental health would have been in had my pregnancy been unplanned and unwanted. Adding in the stress of not being able to get an abortion easily or at all would have made it worse.
I’ve heard story upon story from people who have said that if they had not been able to get an abortion, they would’ve attempted suicide. If that’s not “the pregnant person’s life being in danger,” I don’t know what is. It is glaringly obvious to at least me that in these cases, abortion should be an accessible, affordable, safe, and shame free option available to them. And yet, when it comes to people (especially people of color) seeking an abortion, mental health is never looked at as a “valid” reason for getting or wanting one. (The whole debate about whether there are “valid” and “non-valid” reasons for getting abortions is another debate entirely and will get a post of it’s own sometime in the future.)
I just believe that if you’re gonna straddle the fence on this issue and say that you “only support abortion if the pregnant person’s life is in danger,” you better damn well include mental health in that definition too. Mental illnesses are very real, they’re not made up figments of our imaginations, and they can be just as damaging as any physical illness. I guess what I’m getting at is I’m sick of seeing mental health issues either erased or ignored when it comes to the abortion debate. Along with race, class, gender identity and expression, mental health issues have a place in this conversation.
- The crime of killing a child within a year of birth
- The practice in some societies of killing unwanted children soon after birth
- A person who kills an infant, especially their own child
- A very young child or baby.
- Denoting something in an early stage of its development.
- [Law] A person who has not attained legal majority.
- A very young child, especially one newly or recently born.
- [Informal] A young woman or a person with whom one is having a romantic relationship (often as a form of address).
- The deliberate termination of a human pregnancy, most often performed during the first 28 weeks of pregnancy
- The expulsion of a fetus from the uterus by natural causes before it is able to survive independently
- [Biology] The arrest of the development of an organ, typically a seed or fruit
- An object or undertaking regarded by the speaker as unpleasant or badly made or carried out
- An unborn offspring of a mammal, in particular an unborn human baby more than eight weeks after conception.
Do you see the difference in these things now? WORDS HAVE MEANINGS PEOPLE!
The 1976 Hyde Amendment is a rider that is routinely passed that bars the usage of federal funds to pay for abortion. It was introduced as a response to the Roe v. Wade decision three years earlier that made abortion legal. At the time it was viewed as a major success by the “pro-life” movement.
Today, however, the “pro-life” movement loves to conveniently ignore this amendment. They love to scream about how their tax dollars are paying for women to kill their babies at Planned Parenthood. Anyone with half a brain and access to Wikipedia knows that is a lie.
For one, abortions do not “kill babies” they terminate a pregnancy. Also in some places Planned Parenthood does not perform abortions. They focus solely on contraception and women’s, men’s, and TBLG+ healthcare. As a whole, only approximately 3% of what Planned Parenthood does is abortion.
I cannot count the number of times I have said those exact statements and to “pro-lifers”. Whenever confronted with the truth, they stick their fingers in their ears, repeat the lie and attack me with personal insults and more lies about abortion and contraception.
I don’t like the Hyde Amendment. I think it unfairly limits access to abortion for low-income women and disproportionately harms women of color. I hope that one day they get rid of it. Until then the fact stands that it doesn’t allow federal funds to pay for abortion.
It is one of the many facts ignored by the “pro-life” movement. They use their lies and scare tactics to get people riled up about the issue and scare people out of exercising their right to choose. If I have to wade through their lies and take their abuse to make sure that people have correct information, then so be it. I will happily be a punching bag.
I’m not afraid to say it. I truly and honestly believe that every single person on this earth has a right to live. I believe that no one should take that away from them. I believe that every person should be in complete control of their own body. I believe that government has no right to tell me what to do with my body. I believe that if you are pregnant, the three main choices that are available to you are adoption, parenthood, and abortion. I believe that you should choose what’s right for you and your situation.
Adoption is sometimes a wonderful option, but it doesn’t work for people who don’t want to be pregnant. Pregnancy is very hard on you physically, financially, and mentally. A lot of people can’t or don’t want to go through that. There are people who take all the precautions, they do what you’re “supposed” to do, but still end up pregnant. There never has been and never will be a good reason for forcing someone through a pregnancy and childbirth they do not want.
Continue reading “Day 36: I am Pro-Life”